The Connection Warren-Watchung Edition Apr/May 2019

www.theconnectionsnj.com 908-223-8733 58 Mt. Bethel Road, Suite 202, Warren, NJ 07059 www.warrenoralsurgery.com Daniel Sullivan, DDS Specialty Permit #5442 Add us on Instagram Warren Oral & Maxillofacial Surgery Associates cumple con la legislación vigente de derechos civiles de alcance federal y no discrimina en basea raza, color, país de origen, edad, discapacidad o sexo. / ( - ) Warren Oral Maxillofacial Surgery Associates . # % ! 0& 0'+0 0",* $ Wisdom Teeth Removal • Dental Implants IV Sedation/General Anesthesia Nitrous Oxide (Laughing Gas) Reduce Pain & Stress Restore Harmony & Balance United Acupuncture Health Center MOST MAJOR INSURANCES ACCEPTED NJ Office: Crosspointe, 27 Mountain Blvd. • Suite 8 • Warren 908-756-1538 Hours: Mon.-Fri.: 10am-7pm; Sat.: 9am-1pm Peter Ng, LAc, NY, CA, NJ NCCAOM Board Certified Jennifer Ng, LAc, NY, CA, NJ NCCAOM Board Certified •Pains/Aches/ Numbness •Allergies /Asthma •Stress /Sleeping Problems •PMS/Menopause •Digestive/ Circulatory Problems •Stroke Rehab •Depression/Anxiety •Chronic Fatigue •Nausea, Pain & Fatigue from Chemo •Bell’s Palsy • Infertility •Arthritis Pain Throughout their lives, children and adults will meet many different types of people. Some will be friends, many will be acquain- tances and there will always be the occa- sional individual, who because of jealousy or other reasons, seeks to do harm. How can your child recognize who is a good friend? A parent should not hesitate to dis- cuss this important topic with their child. Genuine friends should be trustworthy. Friendships should exhibit sincerity, hon- esty, respect and devotion. A test of good friends is their support and presence when a situation arises that they are needed. Friends should have common interests; be willing to share experiences and display similar values. They should know when to compromise and be flexible in their approach to situations. However, everybody will display some characteristics that may be annoying. It might be the pattern of speech or topic of conversation that are bothersome. If too many characteristics are annoying, then that individual might not be the right friend. So-called friends who always brag about their own accomplishments and show no interest in yours, who are only engrossed in their own doings; who have no sensitivity for your feelings; who constantly play the “one ups-man-ship” game when they know they are at an advantage, are not true friends. Another important factor in any relation- ship is the sensitivity toward each other. When discussing any topic, a good friend must consider the person to whom they are speaking, emailing or texting before they give a point of view. People should put themselves in their friends’ positions before making a statement that potentially, might be offensive. Settling disputes by documentation is not ideal. Correspondence, either through a letter, e-mail, text or any other form of writ- ing may imply something that you did not mean to say. A verbal statement can be explained as a misunderstanding, but a written statement can not be altered. Friendships require constant ongoing care and nurturing. Misunderstanding and spats are bound to arise and should be defused as quickly as possible. Don’t take any rela- tionship for granted. A good friendship is like a diamond and must be polished peri- odically to sparkle. On the other side of the coin, one meets an individual who is not your friend and takes advantage of you. Bullying, usually by an older and bigger individual, is not uncommon. A child should be instructed to seek out help whenever they are harassed, especial- ly if they are physically or mentally abused. A child must be encouraged to discuss these situations with their parents and not feel so frightened that they keep the inci- dent to themselves. This is especially impor- tant to anyone who is mentally or physical- ly abused. One should never be ashamed to seek the help or advice of a parent, a close relative or a person with authority, such as a teacher or principle. The above article, Friends and Foes, exam- ines children’s relationship with other peo- ple and is adapted from a chapter in the book, PREPARING CHILDREN FOR THE FUTURE. This book can be obtained with- out charge as an e-copy by a request on the email site, AskDrMel@yahoo.com. A hard copy can be obtained on Amazon.com. “Dr. Mel” is a Pediatrician who has always cham- pioned the needs of children and represents a non-profit corporation, Rewarding Life, Inc., whose mission is to instruct children how to avoid harm’s way. He is a graduate of Cornell- Weill Medical School and completed his profes- sional training as Pediatric Chief Resident at the New York Presbyterian Hospital. He is the author of medical and lay articles, the latter under the by-line, “ASK DR. MEL.” Rewarding Life Inc., a non-profit 501(c)(3) corporation supplies free teaching materials to schools, drug rehabilitation centers, correctional facilities and other non- profit organizations. Comments and queries should be addressed to AskDrMel@yahoo.com. FRIENDS AND FOES By: Melvin S. Rosh, MD, FAAP (Dr. Mel) PAGE 32 Health & Wellness