theconnectionsnj.com SENIOR LIVING PAGE 42 eniors have gained a great deal of knowledge and wisdom, as well as life’s experiences and perspective. What can we do with all of that, particularly if we have the desire to share what we know? Mentoring is an amazing opportunity and is quickly becoming an activity many wish to experience. Different than teaching, mentoring is more about guidance and support. Showing, not telling, is a way to process the difference, particularly for those who are anxious to have a positive impact on a young person. In many communities, there are programs designed to guide those who wish to mentor, as well as select young people who will greatly benefit from that support. Not a charity, the young people, known as mentees, have as much responsibility in meeting certain criteria as the mentors have in providing the guidance. I am a mentor for a high school sophomore and will be with her through her high school career. If all goes as it should, I will walk with her at her high school graduation, celebrate with her when she obtains her goal of college acceptance, and continue to follow her maturation, as we will have become united in her ability to have the future she envisions. She has work to do, and so do I. We meet at her high school during her lunchtime one day a week, and it is so refreshing to be with young people! The energy in the building is far different from my own high school experience. The students walk through the halls with backpacks as big as they are tall. The dress is relaxed and comfortable. There are countless posters inviting participation in clubs and after-school activities, and all around, there is an excitement that I love. My mentee is involved in many activities, from ROTC and track & field to Bound for College, which prepares students for their standardized tests. There are never enough days and hours for students with drive, determination, and eyes on the prize of college scholarships. Mine has already accumulated a few for her passion for writing and coding. (Yes, I know what writing is…it was the coding that I needed her to explain!) As much as I am giving to my mentee, I am receiving back from her as well. My high school experiences were so different than my mentee’s, but I know I would have benefited a great deal from an interested adult. And for me, there is little that is greater than offering that supportive hug and appreciation for all she is doing for her future. This is a gift we give each other, and if you are interested in doing the same, look for a program in your area. I believe you will grow with your mentee. SENIOR CORNER Have You Thought of Mentoring? By Ellyn Mantell S Different than teaching, mentoring is more about guidance and support. Showing, not telling, is a way to process the difference, particularly for those who are anxious to have a positive impact on a young person.
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