MIND THE MIND: What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

By Dr. Michael Osit

Nobody knows everything.  And, nobody knows nothing.  Since that is undoubtedly the case, everyone encounters a situation or problem that they do not know how to solve, and, everybody has some means to be able to solve it.  To varying degrees, everyone encounters problem-so everyone needs to possess effective problem-solving strategies.  How do you solve problems-big and small?  Are your problem-solving strategies effective?  Review the list of ineffective and effective problem-solving techniques and determine where you are in your problem-solving abilities.

Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies

1. Ignoring-Believe it or not, some people use “ignoring the problem” as a means to deal with problems.  Although on rare occasions avoiding a problem can actually be indicated, it usually results in the problem either persisting or worsening.
2. Observing-Some people just sit back and watch, hoping that someone else will solve the problem or the problem will solve itself.
3. Being Irresolute-Lacking persistence, or giving up easily, significantly decreases the likelihood of solving a problem.
4. Rapid Speculation-Some people, in their effort to quickly remedy a situation or problem, jump to conclusions.

Effective Problem-Solving Strategies

1. 1. 1. Thinking Positively-Everything is attitude.  Thinking and assuming that you can solve the problem is a great beginning.
      2. Logical Thinking-Using rational, logical thinking in viewing the problem often leads to steps required to solve it.  Taking a step back from the problem in an attempt to view it objectively provides you with a perspective that leads to logical thinking.
      3. Compartmentalizing-Breaking down the problem into manageable components or steps both prevents one from feeling overwhelmed by the problem and from feeling that one is at a loss as to what to do next.
      4. Reviewing History-Problems often have a tendency to repeat themselves.  Sometimes it is a recurring problem and sometimes it is a similar problem that you have solved in the past.  Retrieving your solution steps for past problems can be invaluable in solving your present problem.
      5. Being Persistent-“Sticktoitiveness” (not a word, but accurately describes it) is probably one of the most effective ways to solve problems.  Persistence can certainly lead to frustration, but will also create novel ideas.  Persistence can also facilitate flexible thinking, which creates innovative approaches.
      6. Employing Trial and Error-You must be willing to try different solutions and be okay with them failing.  Using different approaches, even when they fail, can lead to modifications and adjustments that will eventually have a positive result.
      7. Checking and Rechecking-Always review what you have concluded-hopefully prior to implementing your plan.  Attending to details, checking, and rechecking will help catch a flaw in your plan.

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Seeking Help

1. 1. -After persisting without success, know when you absolutely cannot solve the problem independently.  A good problem-solving strategy is to seek help from someone who has expertise or simply fresh eyes on the problem.

   Although there are only a few “don’ts” and many more “do’s” in the above lists, ineffective strategies will consistently and immediately stunt your ability to solve problems in your life.  Whether it is a broken vacuum cleaner, a spat with a friend or co-worker, a medical issue, or a major life decision, invoking effective problem-solving strategies can mean the difference between a happy life and one filled with negativity.

   Dr. Michael Osit is a Licensed Psychologist practicing in Warren, and the author of The Train Keeps Leaving Without Me: A Guide to Happiness, Freedom, and Self Fulfillment (2016), and Generation Text: Raising Well Adjusted Kids In An Age Of Instant Everything (2008).