By Rosie Battista
Do you feel that you don’t have enough time? Do you wish for more quality time? Do you feel something or someone wasting your time? Do you feel time flying by? Do you feel time dragging on?
I know you can answer yes to some or all of these questions. Your answers will vary depending on the timing of the day, situation, and circumstance. The subject of time is fascinating. Millions of pages of books and decades of audio/video seminars have been published on the subject of time and the management of it. We could go on for hours on the subject. But since I have a character count for this column – I promise not to waste too much of your time. Time is one of those things.
Although technically we all have the same amount of time in a day, the feeling of time is relative. Time and its passing is experienced differently by everyone and even by ourselves at different times in our life. We use time to measure history. And historically, some of the most iconic and legendary wonders of the world have been used to measure time. The Great Pyramids, Stonehenge, sundials, hourglasses, egg timers, the Mesopotamian 12-hour clock, digital clocks, a Rolex watch, Palm Pilots, pagers and iPhones. Over time, mankind has been fascinated by measuring time. The problem is that none of those devices actually measure time.
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Let’s go back to those five questions we started with. Re-read them quickly. Have you noticed a consistent pattern? Your answers are all subjective. They’re your very personal reactions to events you perceive as outside your control. Two people can watch the same movie. If you feel it’s amazing, you’ll perceive time as flying by. If you feel it’s a horrible-crappy-not-your-thing movie, you’ll experience time as dragging. But according to Fandango, it’s still the same 2 hours and 35 minutes. Let’s go back to those 11 or so devices we mentioned earlier. They’re all objective. They measure the movement of objects from Point A to Point Z. Consider that the sun has traveled the exact same distance when you leave the movie, whether you liked the movie or not.
Even time management expert teachers will confess in dark corners and hushed whispers that you can’t really manage time. Some will say you can manage events, but some events are 100% out of your control. What you can manage is how you FEEL about those events. What time really is…is a FEELING. So how did we get sucked into trying to measure our personal subjective feelings through these objective disassociated devices? How did we become separate from time, when time is something that we experience in a very personal way? The answer is simple. We gave away our power. Now it’s TIME to take your power back. If time is something we experience as a very personal feeling, then we can control our feelings. We have power over our feelings by the questions we ask ourselves.
Did you notice how you had five different feelings about time in a matter of seconds – because of five different questions I asked when we started? If you want to feel more time, an abundance of time, or more quality time – ask an abundance of more powerful, higher quality questions: What does my heart want to be doing right now? What do I want to create in the world? What’s the most creative way I can do this? What’s the most loving thing I can do right now? What random act of kindness can I do in this minute? Usually, by the time I’ve answered these questions, I’m calmer and capable of seeing things more clearly from an abundant grateful place instead of from a fearful, not enough time place.
Back to our movie theatre…the next time you find yourself viewing one of those horrible-crappy-not-your-style movies, start asking different questions. Ask yourself how many different colors and types of fabric the costuming director used in this movie? Can you count them all? Or focus on the scenery. Where are they filming this? What’s in the room and background? Imagine what a different movie you’ll be seeing. And imagine what a different experience you will have. You may even have a good time!
Rosie Battista helps clients see things in a different way. She shows them how their life can dramatically improve once they discover who they really are. Rosie works one on one with clients and offers group coaching both locally and online. Connect with her on FB, rosiebattista.com or text 908-872-8613.