By Ellyn Mantell
After decades of doing our jobs, building our careers, identifying ourselves by the work we do and the accomplishments we’ve achieved, retirement looms large for most of us. Many will admit to fear being the overwhelming emotion they experience as the “first day of the rest of our lives” is in their headlights. Perhaps there is a way to reframe what seems fraught with uncertainty to the incredible opportunities that may very well present themselves. By remaining positive and enthusiastic, two cornerstones to achieving success, this period of time has the potential to be rather amazing.
There are those who will continue to work long beyond “retirement age” because they embrace with fervor their professions. However, in speaking with many of my friends at this stage of life, it is apparent that some feel relieved to “just be”, without the demands of their jobs or professions. Some look forward to redefining themselves as they no longer feel the need to identify with the financial rewards of their past. Among those who wish to redefine themselves, there are different possibilities. One of my friends is enthusiastic about returning to the classroom, this time not as a teacher, but as an aide, without the pressure of keeping up with the constantly evolving technology, or the responsibility of lesson plans. My friend loves working with children and sharing her well-honed skills.
One of my friends is opening her heart and mind to working with dogs because that is truly a “first love.” She now has the time to train and transport her pet to make life better for those in need of the peace and tranquility animals provide. Imagine the contribution my friend is capable of making with her ability to devote her new-found time and energy.
There are other friends who love the road enough to drive others to medical appointments, as well as airports and other destinations. Their car service provides the extra cash that comes in handy when their wanderlust takes them to their own vacation destinations. Freedom on the road plus extra funds equals double enjoyment!
The baby boomers may be the first generation to have these many options available to us. Prior generations seemed, in general, to feel their careers ended with the proverbial gold watch presented at the termination of their services. For many, I imagine it felt as if their lives were over once they received their final paycheck.
The most difficult transition may be for those who define themselves by their career or profession, tamping down their interests. And yet, there are many rewards from utilizing their energy and talents in new and different ways. Society would benefit from those skills and the retiree’s interest in utilizing them in different ways. My mind goes not only to educators, but also to other professionals who are capable of mentoring young accountants, attorneys, physicians, as well as writers, artists, and poets.
The ability to redefine ourselves is a gift that may continue to evolve for years or decades to come. Who we have been has brought us to this remarkable time of our lives. Looking back can propel us to look forward. If we are open to it, we are so fortunate to have one ending lead to so many new beginnings.