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When children withdraw or avoid a problem, often the situation continues in ways that may prevent learning strategies that will be useful for them in the future. Talk through “what’s the worst thing that will happen?” Give reassurance that you will support them in making choices about behavior. These are ways to build confidence. Sometimes discussing different strate- gies and considering what they would like to see happen is an important part of the process. For parents and other loved ones, modeling healthy coping patterns is crucial. Children take note of the choices adults make. Children are astute observers of everything that goes on around them, ranging from how we respond to the little aggrava- tions, to the “big stuff” that happens in the news. How can we help to han- dle tragedies in a child’s own world or in the world at large? Again, first help them to talk about whatever is on their mind – how they feel things will affect them, how to cope with the unfamiliar or the scary. 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